SoundGirls.org: When we don’t know how things are going to turn out? Feeling insecure because you don’t know if what you are doing will work or not? How do you handle instability? Are you positive and think that everything will be fine? Or do you start thinking about the worst? Do you lean towards the ends?
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Uncertainty may as well be my greatest enemy. I started reading this article and I felt incredibly called out when the article said that when you’re anxious you may become pessimistic. I feel this very personally, when something stresses me out like not having an internship or not knowing what’s going to happen with this whole quarantine, my worst case paranoia comes out and my mom gets way too many phone calls from me about how I plan to be a disappointment and live in her basement until I die. While I’m not having one of these moments currently I decided to try the breathing technique. It was quick and easy, and allowed me to just take a moment. This would be a good technique to continue using. I really liked the techniques that this article suggested, because many of them I have tried and have worked in the past. I think during the time of this pandemic uncertainty is taking over a bigger part of our society than it normally does and I will be utilizing some of the tips mentioned in this article.
This article really reminded me of the serenity prayer they say at the end of AA meetings:
"God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change,
the courage to change the things we can,
and the wisdom to know the difference."
I think we can really learn from that right now. I also really liked the point about expressing ourselves. Ever since I was little, I would write or draw something to express how I was feeling, especially when I was too young to understand my emotions at all. That release not only made me feel so much better, but it also always helped me understand what I was feeling in the first place! It's helped me get in touch with myself and my emotions a lot. I can always figure out what's really bothering me by just letting my pen flow without too much thought on my part. It will always get me to my answer.
Anyway... in times like this, when not just our own personal feelings feel uncertain, but rather, the state of the entire world, I think all we can do is be understanding and forgiving of ourselves. Sometimes when I'm not feeling up to homework or assignments, I don't punish myself. I let myself do what I want to in that moment, and I eventually get to the work I need to get done naturally. It's so important to be compassionate to everyone and ourselves in times like this. Uncertainty is natural, and it will never go away, but we can take this opportunity to learn how we each deal with it personally.
After reading this article, I realized I am not feeling that worried about the current situation. Yes, I do want to know when will the quarantine end, I do want to know what is the best way to spend endless time at home, and I do simply want a hug from someone besides my family. However, I think there are two main reasons why I am not that worried. Firstly, I usually get anxious about my future when I compare myself to the others. Looking at how my friends are being successful with their studies, private lives, or whatever, makes me feel like I am left behind. Now, since the situation is mostly the same all over the world, I just think it is all what it is. Secondly, anxiety often comes from regrets like, I should have done this before the quarantine then I could have been doing this right now. Luckily, I was about to end my exchange year, which I think I did my best. My initial plan after the year was to rest and take time thinking about my future, which I have been doing so far during the quarantine. Now that I know I am not having a mental breakdown or rather enjoying my time, I guess the next step for me is to utilize the time and energy for someone who needs it.
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