Monday, January 16, 2012
How to Say No (Without Being an Asshole)
LifeHacker: We aim to please, and so saying "no" to a request can be a hard thing to do. We don't like to introduce negativity into the conversation, cause a possible confrontation, or have someone think less of us because we don't agree. That said, it's often important to turn things down. We can't do it all. Here's how you can say no to just about anything without being an asshole.
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For me, saying "no" is always a hard thing. I always want to be as helpful as I can be and often time agree to requests made of me. This article has several extremely valid and real world solutions to this problem. I think that in this world we are to much people pleasers and cannot say no even if it means sacrificing thier thier personal happiness. The idea to misdirect thier attention from you saying no by suggesting another option was a fantastic idea. This allows them to comtemplate other possible options while you run away (ok, I'm only half joking on that last part.)
To be honest saying no without being an asshole is one of those things that can be so easy that it is hard. there are many times that I just want to say no to people, but I just can't. This is basically because society has taught that every second of every day we are being judged. By saying "no" than you are simply being judged as an asshole. However, you are not being an asshole. In my case I say no because I simply have either to much work or don't think I could do the job well. If the person who is asking the favor of me doesn't realize that, and thinks I'm an asshole, than I forget them an move. Nonetheless people do need to watch out for those assholes that will say no just because.
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