www.lifehack.org: There are many people who are considered as the controlling type. Everybody has met someone like this at some point in their life – Type A, OCD people or control freaks. On the other hand, there is a completely opposite group of people who just couldn’t care less about things. These labels usually have a negative connotation, as nobody likes being controlled or manipulated by someone else. However, being a control freak doesn’t necessarily mean that you are a bad person.
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Part of being in a class with 28 other theatre students has been a learning experience in more ways than one, and perhaps the biggest thing we have had to deal with is sacrificing the desire to control every facet of something for the sake of being a useful member of a group. This article goes into detail about the facets of the personality of a control freak, and the best way to use these traits to one's advantage. Some, such as readiness and creativity, don't necessary apply to being a control freak, instead just talking about your average neurotic teen. Taking control of your environment is more on the right track, and is one that is especially important in the crazy cluttered room we call a studio. By owning your space you can feel like you are in control of your destiny, which is a rare feat for a college student. The major points of this article one should take away, however, is that having a strong will isn't a bad thing, and using your strength to take charge of your destiny is one of the best things. Your destiny, though, not the destiny of someone else. Just because you're strong doesn't mean you're stronger than someone else, as far as they are concerned. Staying focused on your inner strength and your best is enough to succeed.
I’ve been trying to not be someone who would be considered a “control freak” however, I think I’ve been walking the thin line between “control freak” and “perfectionist” for a while. While i think this article is, perhaps undeservingly, very complimentary of people who are very controlling of their work and their environment, I do identify with a lot of the traits it discusses, and i think it’s important for people to learn how to take reign of and be in charge of their habits. Also, while this article isn’t specifically about theater by any means, I think it is very applicable to working in a field where you are very passionate about what you are doing; sometimes this means that you may be putting a lot of yourself into a project without taking into consideration your health, or the circumstances of the production which you are a part of. I think work is a difficult aspect of life to balance when you are trying to do your best while also doing what is best for those working with you.
Okay, anyone who is actually a control freak already knows this. This is the type of article your aunt passive aggressively shares on your Facebook wall after you offended her at Sunday dinner by insinuating maybe she cooked the chicken too long. Any control freak does not need to be told to be aggressive. I actually feel the exact opposite - most control freaks in my life are VERY aggressive, they do not need to be told to use it to their advantage. This includes me.
Clickbait articles like this entice me so, but I always ended up disappointed. I can't believe that the Internet has actually created a job for people to specifically tell me what I already know. I can't tell if whoever wrote this really sat down and thought, "hmm, this is information I need to share!!" Or thought of the article as one huge inside joke with society.
I am a control freak. I am aggressive and problematic and should not be encouraged. It is fine to a point, but often times leads to frustration, anger, pruned bridges, and dashed dreams. But yes. Click the link.
Being a "control freak" certainly has its advantages, as seen in this article. Personally, I belong to the exact opposite end of the spectrum and I think I need to work on being more controlling. Although the phrase "control freak" may have a negative connotation to it, it's actually a quite handy quality to have and it's certainly more useful than being not controlling. This article teaches the "control freaks" how to manage and balance their dominant personality and turn it into a good thing. I think this also extends to other different types of personalities, which I think all boils down to the same thing - it's all up to balancing and not letting that quality/personality go overboard, and knowing what are your strengths within your personality.
Hi, I'm Kat Landry, and I am a control freak.
While I am not a fan of the negative connotation of that term (Does "freak" really need to be in there?), I am definitely a person who prefers to be in control of a situation. A few of the commenters above described how this is a bad thing, because you can't expect to control every facet of your life and it gets overwhelming when people are all trying to control each other. To this, I say you may have a very extreme view of a control freak. I am a control freak, but that is not my only quality. I am also a fairly good mediator, not just to other people, but over my own emotions. It does drive me a little crazy when people try to take hold of a project or conversation when they are adding nothing but their own desire to speak, but that does not mean I jump in and take the reins every single time. I am a person with self control as well. I really liked the examples the article stated of ways to take advantage of your control freak-iness, because they are ways I try to take advantage of it on a daily basis. My desire (and ability) to take control of situations where it is important that someone is leading the group I think makes me a good leader. Not everyone wants to be in control of things that are going on, so I think it's always advantageous to have someone like me around because I will almost always pull up my bootstraps and take charge if no one else wants to. This obviously applies to a myriad of situations that were almost all alluded to in the article. What I did not like about this article was the way these "solutions" were prevented, as though control freaks are inherently evil and should be looking for a way to use their nasty personality traits to their advantage... But hey, I'll take the positive spin.
*presented, not prevented
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