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Tuesday, January 23, 2007
When Personalities Clash
lifehack.org: "Unfortunately, we have all had to work with someone that we can’t stand at one point or another. "
7 comments:
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This is interesting.... A positive way to look at a problem that is inherent in any kind of collaborative (sorry Joe) effort. I won't lie, though, more often than not, I think people would prefer to just bitch about that certain person than actually further the team by sucking it up and dealing with it.
I've run into this problem recently, actually. It's really the best approach. I agree with Chapel in saying that it's a very positive way of looking at the problem and that most would just prefer to have something to complain about than make any attempt to remedy the situation. I find that in that situation it's usually easy to find some way that you might be making it more difficult than it needs to be by responding in a negative way to the person.
This is exactly the kind of thing that we need to be focusing on because not only will we encounter clashing personalities in our industry but especially in our small community. we are constantly in situations where we see the same people for up to weeks at a time so obviously there will be personality clashes...we need to all take the advice of this article and stop and slow down and do whatever it takes personally to not let our issues get in the way...we will be a happier community at large, one dealing with our own issues and the maintaining safe distance at the same time.
I agree with this article complete in both it's explainations and tips. I do think that people sometimes complain just to hear the sound of their own voice and gather pity from others. I know I have done that at times as I am sure we all can admit to. I think an easy way, if possible and practical, is to simply step away from the problem. If someone is bothering you and you have somewhere else you can be, then why not go there? Technically you are the one with the problem at that point so only you can find a way to deal with it. I know I have a family member I tend to clash with, but I try to remind myself that they are only human and are doing the best they can. If this isn't enough to soothe my frustration I try to think of a new way to look at the situation. Maybe they are reacting this way as a result of something I did or something I can change. If not, there are always people in life that will drive us nuts so it is best to learn how to internalize this and not let it consume our lives.
It comes along with our career, the personality clash. It's because one single production involves numbers of artistic and eccentric people. The last Company Manager and two ASMs HATED me with PASSION, I mean real firy PASSION. But the piece of advice the Assistant Director was to "suck it up and be much more polite" to them. This industry is all about reputation you have, and if you let anybody see little negative thing about you, they will add up to big gigantic flaw. That's the motto I have ever since, "Don't show others your ups-and-downs."
It's always tough working with someone who has either a completely different personality or method of working. I know I've worked in teams or groups where my partner or partners work in a way I could never work, but if you can identify that, it can definitely work to your advantage even better than a situation with a person just like you. Plus, it's just more interesting working with different kinds of people. Of course - there are those times where it just feels impossible to deal with another person, but it's always worth it to do everything in your power to make it work.
I think everyone deals with this problem and are at times the problem. I agree with Chapel that a lot of times we just blame and bitch about the person without actually trying to improve the situation. I think a lot of the tips the article gave were really helpful as well as pratical. Though there comes a point when all you can do is avoid the person.
7 comments:
This is interesting.... A positive way to look at a problem that is inherent in any kind of collaborative (sorry Joe) effort. I won't lie, though, more often than not, I think people would prefer to just bitch about that certain person than actually further the team by sucking it up and dealing with it.
I've run into this problem recently, actually. It's really the best approach. I agree with Chapel in saying that it's a very positive way of looking at the problem and that most would just prefer to have something to complain about than make any attempt to remedy the situation. I find that in that situation it's usually easy to find some way that you might be making it more difficult than it needs to be by responding in a negative way to the person.
This is exactly the kind of thing that we need to be focusing on because not only will we encounter clashing personalities in our industry but especially in our small community. we are constantly in situations where we see the same people for up to weeks at a time so obviously there will be personality clashes...we need to all take the advice of this article and stop and slow down and do whatever it takes personally to not let our issues get in the way...we will be a happier community at large, one dealing with our own issues and the maintaining safe distance at the same time.
I agree with this article complete in both it's explainations and tips. I do think that people sometimes complain just to hear the sound of their own voice and gather pity from others. I know I have done that at times as I am sure we all can admit to.
I think an easy way, if possible and practical, is to simply step away from the problem. If someone is bothering you and you have somewhere else you can be, then why not go there? Technically you are the one with the problem at that point so only you can find a way to deal with it.
I know I have a family member I tend to clash with, but I try to remind myself that they are only human and are doing the best they can. If this isn't enough to soothe my frustration I try to think of a new way to look at the situation. Maybe they are reacting this way as a result of something I did or something I can change.
If not, there are always people in life that will drive us nuts so it is best to learn how to internalize this and not let it consume our lives.
It comes along with our career, the personality clash. It's because one single production involves numbers of artistic and eccentric people. The last Company Manager and two ASMs HATED me with PASSION, I mean real firy PASSION. But the piece of advice the Assistant Director was to "suck it up and be much more polite" to them. This industry is all about reputation you have, and if you let anybody see little negative thing about you, they will add up to big gigantic flaw. That's the motto I have ever since, "Don't show others your ups-and-downs."
It's always tough working with someone who has either a completely different personality or method of working. I know I've worked in teams or groups where my partner or partners work in a way I could never work, but if you can identify that, it can definitely work to your advantage even better than a situation with a person just like you. Plus, it's just more interesting working with different kinds of people. Of course - there are those times where it just feels impossible to deal with another person, but it's always worth it to do everything in your power to make it work.
I think everyone deals with this problem and are at times the problem. I agree with Chapel that a lot of times we just blame and bitch about the person without actually trying to improve the situation. I think a lot of the tips the article gave were really helpful as well as pratical. Though there comes a point when all you can do is avoid the person.
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