Remodeling: One of the challenges a business owner faces is the appropriateness of his/her reactions to situations. When something goes wrong or not as well as desired, an overworked and stressed business owner can respond in an unproductive manner.
For some business owners, the “natural” response is not really the response they would want to give if they were taking the long view. So, after the response, they go and apologize to whomever they unintentionally made feel bad.
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This is a really interesting article because it is an approach to calming down that you wouldn’t expect. I think it’s a little juvenile to have to take your anger out on a piece of wood with a sledge hammer but at the same time, if that’s what it takes, that’s what it takes. I know my initial reactions are not always what I want them to be and I try to stop, think about what I’m going to say, and decide if that is what I want to say. It is important to have a legacy of being calm because then you are more open and people feel better coming to talk to you about things. For me, I can get my anger out by just sitting calmly for a few minutes. But there are times when I really would just want to get a hammer and break stuff. With that said, it also wouldn’t be great if your employees see you taking your anger out on them on a piece of wood that you destroy…
Ha. This sounds quite a bit like me.
When I was in high school, someone did something pretty awful to hurt me, and when it happened I felt so frustrated and angry that I didn't know where to turn. I just kept feeling like I wanted to break something, and rather than settling for this foolish high schooler's bones, I went into the breezeway where we kept our scrap wood and whipped 2x4 scraps at the back wall. Yes, I probably would have looked like a crazy person had anyone walked in, and yes, maybe I could have saved my high school a little scrap wood, but it was probably the best choice I could have made. Like the author says, it allowed me the time to both get my frustrations out and calm down overall. I often feel like I *have* to have some sort of reaction to the people who wrong me, because otherwise I would feel weak and inactive, so it's good to find something to do that does not affect them that still satisfies my need to do something.
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